For quite sometime now, EJ, has been asking numerous questions about dying and going to heaven. I apparently, have been missing the boat on how to explain it to him correctly. Because almost every time we get deep into the discussion, my four year old either gets choked up or actually starts crying....
Tonight, he asked me again about heaven. He said, "Mommy, when you die and go to heaven, do you stay there forever and ever?"
In a light hearted, loving way, I replied, "yea, and it is going to be a wonderful place that we will be able to be with God."
With alligator tears and a knot in his throat, EJ said, "But mama, I want to get married first...."
Oh good grief.... what's a mama to do here?
At least it was about getting married this time. The last several times we have discussed death, he has said that he doesn't want to be away from CJ or I. And he means it!!!
What is struggling to me, is that I can't even get the concept of heaven down, accurately. And truthfully, when I was a child I used to have small panic attacks about my parents dying or me. Honestly, I am not even fully at peace with the thought of dying and leaving my children, motherless.
My, have I gotten a bit too deep for the blogging world?
Anyways, any ideas out there on how to explain death and heaven better? Or any good books that you can recommend?
By the way, no one has died that he knows. And frankly, we are not anticipating the death of anyone either - you know what I mean! I am sure that this is a normal time of childhood to start understanding this concept - but good, grief, how do you explain it to a four year old???!!!
Posted in: on Saturday, January 06, 2007 at at 9:09 PM