I needed to choose to forgive my neighbor last night. In fact, CJ and I prayed together within an hour or so and said that we forgave her, after the police incident.
After reading MIA's comment though, it made me think, about showing her forgiveness too. I had already spoken with her in the past. Explaining our situation, offering specific times of the day that we could remain "extra" quiet. I wanted to find a way to compromise on our living situations. Back then, she had agreed to stop banging so much.
Truth be told, she speaks VERY loudly and when she is out on her porch, and our screen door is open, we hear much. I know that she is suffering from all sorts of issues. She is reactive and angry. She is a single mom of two boys of her own, with a teen nephew living with her. I have overheard that she is unhappy with her job. And even heard that her church gathered money to help her pay for her rent. She is an unhappy woman.
And while, her actions and reactions to my children are still wrong, it is being done out of anger towards her own life. I am sure if I was exhausted and had nothing left inside of me to give, that the sound of thumping feet and children playing loudly, would rub me the wrong way. I bet that if I had little money, three boys to feed and a workplace that was unfriendly, I would be a bit irritable at a vacuum running above me. Her life is hard. I believe it.
I attempted a peace offering today, with a card and a treat, and placed it on her door. I did talk with my landlord, who was kind and understanding to us.
And through out the day, I chuckled at the fact that a police officer was at my home last night. I giggled over and over again at MomTeacherFriend's experiment. But mostly, I pondered at forgiving my neighbor and trying to understand her circumstances.
Posted in: on Tuesday, December 05, 2006 at at 11:28 PM